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Making a huge mistake can be quite terrible and not just for your personal relationship or popularity.  A huge mistake can have terrible emotional and even negative health effects on you.  After a huge mistake your stress levels will spike which could trigger numerous conditions such as cardiovascular disease, skin rashes, hair loss and more, especially if you cannot seem to let go of what happened or fix the problem.  Pile on a bit of depression and you can soon be faced with an unimaginable situation from which there is nowhere to run because you cannot run from your own thoughts and self-hatred.  Overcoming a huge mistake isn’t always as simple as saying I am sorry and waiting for time to heal things. Some mistakes have such a huge effect on your body and on your emotional balance that you might need to seek professional help.

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Research why you made the huge mistake

Sometimes it helps to find out what exactly lead to your huge mistake.  Considering all of your circumstances might help you realize that many other people could have easily made the same mistake if they were in your shoes.

Accept and admit

Accepting that you were wrong and admitting to those that were negatively affected by your mistake that you were wrong is already a huge step towards healing.  You will be surprised at how forgiving other people can be when they are presented with an apology instead of stubbornness.

Do everything you can to fix the problem

Is there something you can physically do to fix the problem or repair the damage?  Can you talk with those that have suffered as a result of your mistake?  Can you make a public apology?  If there is any way for you to reduce the impact your mistake had then do it.

Remember that everyone makes mistakes

You are certainly not the only person in the world to do something stupid or to make a huge error.  Everyone makes mistakes every now and then.  Stephen Collins for example was once one of the most popular TV series actors and quickly fell from the spotlight after his scandal where he molested an underage girl.  He publicly admitted his mistake suffered through scales of fan hate and owned his errors and after all the tedious things that happened, it seems like the world is ready to forgive his terrible mistake and realize that he is only human.

Forgive yourself

Haters are going to hate but the most important thing for your personal health is to forgive yourself.  Regret and depression puts tremendous pressure and stress on your body and results in poor health, poor concentration, low energy level, a low self-esteem and withdrawal from social interaction. Forgive yourself for your mistake even if others won’t and move on.

Seek professional help

Getting help from a psychologist can be tremendously beneficial because they can advise you on the right steps to take and they can prescribe medications like anti-depressants to help you overcome your emotional instability so you can once again feel happy.

We all make mistakes at some point and that is because we are all human beings. Human beings are weak and are subject to temptations, and I guess that is what happened to Stephen Collins. Stephen Collins is the 67-year-old popular Warner Bro’s show, “7th Heaven” actor who played a moral minister and father. He came out publicly and admitted to having inappropriate sexual contact with underage girls. The most recent of them was 20 years before his confession. Since then, Stephen has been in and out of therapy trying to understand what made him do that, and how he can never do it again.

We Should Forgive Stephen Collins

It was not his idea to have everything come to light the way that it did, but his ex-wife’s. during one of the confidential therapies that they went to in a bid to reconcile their marriage, she took the liberty of secretly recording the session where he confessed everything, linking himself to young girls and having one of them touch him. Soon after that, she released the video to TMZ and everything went bust. Stephen Collins had already began working on himself before the incidents became public as he sought ways to change, and not every human being can do something like that, and especially 20 years after the incidents occurred.

During an interview with Katie Couric, he said, “I had dealt with them [the sexual incidents] very, very strongly and committedly in my private life. I think I’m a human being with flaws and I’ve done everything I can to address them.”

He added, “I deeply regret the mistakes I’ve made and any pain I caused these three women. I admit to, apologize for, and take responsibility for what I did.” The question is, how many men would do the same?

I believe that if someone is as sincere as Stephen was in addressing his shortcomings, we should forgive them and support him. Only god knows the sort of guilt hell that he went through those past 20 years and we should not punish him any further. He did everything the right way and also didn’t go and apologize to the victims directly since it would have opened up their wounds so many years later and probably disrupt their lives.

The steps below are some of the famous steps of recovery that Collins has been working with:

  • Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of his wrongs.
  • Made a list of all persons he offended, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  • Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

I guess that is the very same reason that made his “7th Heaven” TV wife, Catherine Hicks also forgive him despite her previous outburst when the information first came out. She said that she has had time to think and reflect about Collin’s sex abuse secret and decided to let it go, forgive him for the indiscretion.

This is what she had to say to TMZ, "I have no opinion on Stephen's culpability, or not. We were surprised (by the confession), but we all love each other. We really... all worked together beautifully, and if they did do a reunion, I'd just be happy to show up and see everyone, Stephen included.”

She also says that during the shows, Collins never showed any signs of inappropriate behavior with the minors on set and that she is convinced that the abuse was in his past and no longer there.

"It was never an issue on our show," she explained. "It's just, sort of, another chapter... to his life, I think before we even started 7th Heaven. So therefore, it's not a current issue so... being together and resuming our characters would be fine, because also the show is based on forgiveness, non-judgementalism (sic), humility, all the values that sort of make up a particular brand of faith."

From 1996 to 2007, the original 7th Heaven series, which also starred Jessica Biel and Beverley Mitchell, screened.